
During Catalyst Conference, Andy Stanley of North Point Community Church (Alpharetta, GA) discussed the internal tension that we all carry because of our appetite for more.
God has designed us to be big bundles of appetites and desire. But each one of our appetites create a tension because each appetite demands more.
When it comes to leadership, I think there are some appetites that are heightened more than the average person. No matter how much your appetite is fed, you always want more.
Leaders have an appetite for:
- Progress
- Greater Responsibility
- Respect (recognition)
- Winning
- Growth
- Fame
- Achievement
- To Be Envied
There is something in all of us when it comes to our opportunities that want more.
3 Things You Need to Know About Appetites
- God created them and sin distorted them.
- Appetites are never fully and finally satisfied.
- You appetites always whisper now and never later.
Your response to your appetites - you management of them - will determine the direction of your profession, your family, and your life.
People almost never lose their ministry because of bad theology. But many have lost their ministries because of their inability to manage their appetites.
The whole story of Jacob and Esau in Genesis 25 is built around the birthright. A birthright was valuable for three reasons:
- Financial
The oldest son would get significantly more than the other siblings.
- Authority
The oldest son gained authority over the rest of the family.
- God’s Blessing
There was an association/belief that God would bless the oldest son because of the birthright.
So in Genesis 25, Esau gives into an appetite and trades his birthright for a bowl of stew.
Older brothers rarely need or want anything from the younger brother, but when they do the younger brother takes advantage of it. Who would trade a birthright for a bowl of stew? It happens all the time. Who would do that? You will if it feeds the right appetite.
When you have an out of proportion appetite, scientists have discovered that your brain chemically changes in two ways:
- Impact Bias
Takes a simple appetite and magnifies it out of proportion. Your brain lies to you and tells you that it will feel way better than it actually will. This is why we have buyer’s remorse.
- Focalism
Focuses our mind on one thing and blocks out everything else.
This happens every time an appetite gets blown up out of proportion. Esau did not have anyone to reframe his appetite. And we will not have anyone standing next to us to reframe our appetites.
Whatever you want, you will only want more. Your only hope is to reframe your appetite within the context of what God wants you to be.
There are opportunities that you should never take advantage of because they will pull you away from what God wants you to do. Appetites are valuable, but if you allow them to dictate your future, then you will one day sell it all for a bowl of stew.
So ask yourself…
What do I want to see God do 10 years from now?
Answering that question will reframe your appetites. The clearer your answer, the more control you will have over your appetites.
So what is your bowl of stew?
You have no idea what God wants to accomplish through you. You have no idea what God wants to accomplish through your children. You have no idea what God wants to accomplish through your grandchildren. But God knows.
So whatever you do, don’t trade your future for a bowl of stew.