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Archive for February, 2009

In children’s ministry, teaching good spiritual truths is the essential foundation. It is the basics. So if your children’s ministry already has the basics covered, here are four areas of children’s ministry excellence that will make you more effective and efficient.

#1 - KNOW (Rules, Culture, & Science)
You need to know your church’s rules for children’s ministry. In other words, you need to know the policies, procedures, and what is expected of you. And of course, you should follow the rules, too. Examples:

  • Your church may have a policy for no food in the classroom other than a preapproved snack. Disregarding that policy may evolve into a situation where a child with allergies eats some food he finds and must be rushed to the hospital.
  • Your church may require all volunteers to wear official uniforms and identification badges. Disregarding that policy may make the ministry seem less professional or secure to some parents. And regularly disregarding it, may create a security vulnerability that entices a child predator (rare but it has happened).

You should also know the cultures of the kids you are responsible for teaching. You should not only know where the cultures are now, but you should know how the cultures are evolving. Discover the answers to these questions:

  • What TV shows, music, and family traditions drive the kids I teach?
  • How do these influences change how these kids behave and think?

And know the science behind how kids learn. It does not matter whether you take care of babies or teach middle school students, there are things you can learn to help you better reach them. Examples:

  • Nursery workers can become better by studying things like the Dunstan Baby Language, the 5 S’s, Baby Signs, or the latest research studies on educating babies. Read more>>
  • Boys interpret the world as objects moving through space. Therefore, a teacher of all boys should move around the room constantly and be that object. But girls work well in circles, facing each other. Using descriptive phrases and lots of color in overhead presentations or on the chalkboard gets girls’ attention. Read more>>

#2 - IMPROVE (Yourself & the Ministry)
All you need to do to improve yourself is push yourself to do a better job than the week before. Always be looking for ways to improve what you do. This month should be better than last month. And this year should be better than last year.

It is also important that you work to improve the children’s ministry as a whole. Create a system for feedback and be sure everyone uses it. The volunteers in the trenches are the ones who best know what is needed, what works, and what does not work.

#3 - DUPLICATE (Yourself)
Imagine if God suddenly called you to a different role in ministry, would there be a replacement that could instantly do the same job as well or better than you?

If you are a leader, you need to always be “working yourself out of a job” by teaching those you lead how to do what you do. You are duplicating yourself but not cloning yourself. Others need to be able to achieve the same results or better but through their own God-given mix of talents and strengths. Read more>>

#4 - STICKINESS (Lessons & Relationships)
A study by the United States Air Force discovered that we forget 95% of what we hear within 72 hours. So how do we get our lessons to stick?

I believe that as long as you have the basics covered and are teaching quality spiritual truths, adding some “wow” factor to your ministry significantly helps a lesson to stick. Without quality teaching, you are wowing for the sake of “wow,” which is superficial and often fleeting.

I still remember spiritual lessons from my childhood that were taught with the “wow” of throwing darts, flash paper, and great storytelling. You can wow kids by delivering an incredibly creative, engaging, multi-sensory lesson. The goal is to make the lesson stick and be memorable so that when the child is older and needing the lesson, they can be equipped with that spiritual truth

Making your children’s ministry “sticky” does not have to have all the “whiz,” “bang,” and gadgets. One of the greatest opportunities that children’s ministries have is to wow their kids relationally. Even some preschoolers are already hurting from broken families or a lack of love. Go the extra mile to make your kids feel loved. At the very least, when they are teenagers or in college, they think fondly about church and say, “Wow, they really loved me!”

For Discussion:
- What tips or areas of focus would you add to this list?

I regularly get asked questions about how to start and maintain a successful blog. Here is my beginner’s blogging tutorial - How to Blog 101.

#1 :: CHOOSE A BLOGGING PLATFORM
I recommend self-hosting your blog and using WordPress. It the most popular platform among Technorati’s top 100 blogs and among Church Relevance’s top church blogs.

Self-Hosted Blogging Software:

Blogging Services (hosting provided):

#2 :: CHOOSE A DOMAIN (if allowed)
As long as it is relevant, the shorter the domain is the better. A short domain is quick and easy to type, which will save you time in the long run and reduce the probability of you and your visitors mistyping it.

  • Domize - immediately checks a domain’s availability as you type it into the query box
  • DomainsBot - suggests domains based on your search keywords
  • Domain Pigeon - lists available domain names which you can use for your websites
  • MakeWords - generates domain ideas based on your suggestions, linguistics, and semantic databases

#3 :: DESIGN YOUR BLOG
Being a web designer or hiring one is not necessary for having a good looking blog, but it definitely helps. WordPress has thousands of template designs for sale and for free that are not too complicated to implement.

For Inspiration:

For Templates:

#4 :: USE TOOLS
WordPress is a great platform, but there are tools and plugins that can make it even better. I recommend at least using the following tools:

Other Tools:

Tool Lists:

#5 :: HAVE QUALITY CONTENT
An aesthetically well-designed blog may entice visitors to linger for the first visit, but quality content is what will get those visitors to keep coming back. If you need topics, visit these resources:

  • Alltop - an “online magazine rack” of popular topics
  • Delicious - the tastiest bookmarks on the web
  • Digg - discover and share content from anywhere on the web
  • Reddit - users decide the top stories
  • StumbleUpon - discovers web sites based on your interests

#6 :: STUDY BLOGGING
If you want people to read your quality content, study the science of successful blogging and copywriting. Writing for a blog is different than writing for a book or magazine. My advice:

Unless you are blogging for personal reasons, focus on optimizing the reader experience. Offer only quality content. And make it scannable by using short paragraphs, bold text, and bullet points. Use as few words as possible without compromising quality (needless words wasted readers’ time). And if possible, post consistently often.

Blogging Tips:

#7 :: MARKET YOURSELF
With blogging, two of your most powerful marketing opportunities are Search Engine Optimization and leveraging social media. Last year, 48% of ChurchRelevance.com’s traffic came from search engines. You should be using these resources:

WHAT ELSE?
Remember this is just the beginner’s blogging tutorial. But if you read all of these links, you will be on your way to becoming a blogging expert.

If you are already blogging, what would you add to this list?
What are your favorite tools?
What is your best advice?

If you need a church property, AcreScout.com is an excellent place to find church real estate. Look for the church building you need or find vacant land for building a church. Here is the latest church property for sale:

NEW YORK

$169,000 :: Sacred Heart Church (Cohoes, NY)
13,000 square feet building size

Also, be sure to check out AcreScout.com/vacant-land to find the latest vacant land listings. Hopefully, there will be a property that is perfect for your church.

FREE CHURCH PROPERTY ADVERTISING
Do you want Church Relevance to highlight your church property for sale? Well, it is fast, free, and simple.

  1. Get your licensed real estate agent to register for a free AcreScout account.
  2. Have your agent add your church property to AcreScout’s listings.
  3. Church Relevance will periodically highlight and link to the latest church properties for sale on AcreScout.

Here is the review of the best links of 2009’s 8th week.

America’s Religious Gap
The importance of religion in Americans’ lives has interesting geographical differentiation. States whose residents are least likely to report that religion is important tend to be concentrated in New England and the far West (with the exception of Utah). (Via)

Students do not know the Bible
It is becoming increasingly difficult to teach English Literature because students do not know the Bible or classical mythology.

Children get 1st mobile phone at average age of 8
In the UK, 35% of children own a cell phone by age eight, according to the Personal Finance Education Group. Children as young as seven were offering to do chores in exchange for cash to buy ringtones. (Via)

Anti-social Behavior In Girls Predicts Adolescent Depression Seven Years Later
University of Washington social scientists tracked first- and second-graders for seven years and found that anti-social behavior among girls and anxiety among both sexes predicted depression in early adolescence. Surprisingly, early signs of depression were not predictive of adolescent depression. Boys with early anti-social behavior typically go on to show more anti-social behavior while girls may turn inward with symptoms, morphing into other mental health problems such as depression, eating disorders, anxiety and suicidal behavior during adolescence.

Bond with Mom Helps Kids Make Friends
A child who has a strong relationship with Mom during preschool years tends to form closer friendships in grade school. Children who were securely attached to Mom at age three showed more open emotional communication with mothers and better language ability at four and a half. Open emotional communication in turn predicted fewer hostile attributions at first grade, which predicted greater teacher-reported friendship quality at third grade.

10 Reasons Why Web Ministry Applications and Initiatives Fail
(1) Never Built. (4) Bad Modeling. (8) Strategy. Read the post for the other 7 reasons.

Digital Evangelism Issues
The people behind Internet Evangelism Day launched a blog. This year’s Internet Evangelism Day is April 26, 2009.

Facebook has 175 million active users
This includes people in every continent–even Antarctica.

The Internet has 1 billion users
According to the comScore World Metrix audience measurement service, the Internet surpassed 1 billion visitors in December 2008.

Top 10 Twitter Tips for Beginners
(1) Shrink you URLs. (4) Use the @ sign. (9) Pick a good desktop client. Read the post for the other 7 tips.

Study finds recession associated with increases in minority victims of crime
The victimization of both female and male blacks and Latinos increases during or after periods of economic recession, according to a study by researchers Karen Heimer of the University of Iowa and Janet Lauritsen of the University of Missouri-St. Louis.

How the Average U.S. Consumers Spend Their Income
It includes a comparison of the spending habits of different age groups.

The Middle Class Majority
For the first time in history more than half the world is middle-class—thanks to rapid growth in emerging countries.

Download NewSpring Church’s Communications Manuals
Get copies of NewSpring Church’s (Anderson, SC) Visual Identity Standards manual and Communications Standards manual for free.

50 Free High-Quality Icon Sets
Get 50 beautifully designed, free and professional high-quality icons for desktop and Web design.

Book Cover Design Inspiration
A collection of 1000+ fairly well-designed book covers. (Via)

MemberHub for Churches
MemberHub was designed specifically to help churches provide and manage private, online homes for each of their sub-groups.

MinistryQuestions.com
A new place to ask questions and get answers for ministry.

THE REVIEW OF 2008
- Rick Warren’s 12 Insights on Worship
- Q+A :: Meth Statistics

THE REVIEW OF 2007
- Sand Communication :: Advertising on Oceanfront Beach
- The Power of a Positive Environment
- Charles Stanley on Doing Church
- Donald Miller on Wasting Time
- Leading Change Through Emotions
- Top American Christian Leaders :: How Likeable Are They?

If you want to teach kids, you should understand more than how to reach their culture now. You should understand how your presentation will affect their culture in the future.

This applies to teaching any demographic and any culture, but it is particularly important for younger ages since it is assumed their brains have more plasticity.

How you choose to teach someone will influence their future at least in a very, very small way. Research repeatedly shows how easily molded our minds and behavior are to our environment and experiences.

Think of each interaction as a small drop in a bucket. A few interactions may not make a noticeable or measurable difference in someone’s future. But if you have the opportunity to teach someone week after week, those small drops will add up into gallons of influence.

For example…

In my early years of children’s ministry, I had the opportunity to be a part of an incredibly creative and highly talented team of staff and volunteers. We knew how to make a lesson stick.

From ages 2 and up, the curriculum had us teach the importance of giving offerings and tithes. In hindsight, we needed more balance to our approach. All too often, the lesson would revolve around the sowing and reaping angle (limitless object lessons), and we needed to focus more on giving just because we love God and because we want to help people. In hindsight, we needed to focus more on selfless giving just to counterbalance the negative effects of consumerism in our culture.

Here’s what happened…

For 7 years, I taught five-year-olds. And for 5 years, I taught middle school students. I taught some of my 5th, 6th, and 7th graders when they were five-years-old, so I got to see how they had grown spiritually through their elementary school years. I was proud to see how well they knew the Bible, but I was saddened to see how many of them had become superficial and consumeristic. It was not uncommon to get prayer requests for a PlayStation3 or a PSP.

So what’s to blame?

Unquestionably, tween culture is growing increasingly consumeristic. I was amazed at the cultural evolution that I watched happen during my five years of teaching middle school students. But now at a different church, I still teach 5th graders, and I do not get any prayer requests for video game systems or shopping sprees. Perhaps, socioeconomic differences are a factor.

But I blame myself. I could have had more balance in my teaching. I did not foresee how my weekly teaching could shape my five-year-olds’ future culture. Sure, they had other teachers, and I was not the only cause. But I do think I was a factor.

CONCLUSION

A good teaching can become a bad thing if not balanced. Be self-aware of the big picture message that your ministry is communicating. And ask yourself, “Do I need balance? Is there anything missing from my big picture message?”

Sometimes blunt, crude words are the only things that can shock a person out of a rut and motivate him to improve to the next level. This four-part blog series is for the church worker who needs such forthright words.

When achieving a goal seems impossible and you are not making any progress, imagine that:

You will die unless you achieve it.

In other words, ask yourself,

If my life depended on it, what would I do?

Circumstances are a powerful thing. It is amazing what people can accomplish under the right motivating circumstances. So when you feel like giving up on pursuing your goal, ask yourself, “What would I do if my life depended on it?”

Odds are you can give more effort. Odds are you can be more creative. And often the most brilliant creativity happens in times of desperation. So if you want to innovate, if you want to enhance your performance, figure out what you would do if your life depended on it.

This is a psychological mind hack. It gets you thinking past the limitations you put on yourself because you do not want to leave your comfort zone. And if you truthfully answer the question, then you must choose whether or not you are willing to invest that type of life-at-stake effort, passion, and willpower.

Stay tuned for more crude words.

Read Part 1 - You Deserve to Go to Hell

If you need a church property, AcreScout.com is an excellent place to find church real estate. Search for the church building you need or find vacant land for building a church. This week, a seminary school for sale has been added to AcreScout:

MASSACHUSETTS

$7,500,000 :: St. Hyacinth Seminary (Granby, MA)
110,000 square feet building size
400 acres lot size

Also, be sure to check out AcreScout.com/vacant-land to find the latest vacant land listings. Hopefully, there will be a property that is perfect for your church.

FREE CHURCH PROPERTY ADVERTISING
Do you want Church Relevance to highlight your church property for sale? Well, it is fast, free, and simple.

  1. Get your licensed real estate agent to register for a free AcreScout account.
  2. Have your agent add your church property to AcreScout’s listings.
  3. Church Relevance will periodically highlight and link to the latest church properties for sale on AcreScout.

Here is the review of the best links of 2009’s 7th week.

Nine out of 10 parents swear in front of children
The average child hears their mother or father utter six expletives a week.  Two out five 11-year-olds were using swear words at an earlier age, admitting to using them in their everyday language because they heard their parents use them.

Five tips for better surveys
#2 Every question you ask changes the way your users think. If you ask, “which did you hate more…” then you’ve planted a seed.

How to Deal with Four Types of Online Troublemakers
(1) Trolls (2) Spammers (3) Lawbreakers (4) Meanies

1 in 4 Teens Think Violent Behavior is Acceptable
Research from Junior Achievement and Deloitte and conducted by Opinion Research shows that more than one-in-four teens (27 percent) think behaving violently is sometimes, often or always acceptable. More students thought violence was acceptable than was cheating (19 percent), plagiarizing (10 percent) or stealing (3 percent).

What Modern Men Want in Women
Researchers at the University of Iowa find that men increasingly are interested in intelligent, educated women who are financially stable — and chastity isn’t an issue.

Toddlers Who Gesture Are Smarter
Children who use gestures more as toddlers have better vocabularies entering kindergarten, research at the University of Chicago shows.

UK teens view 87 hours of porn online per year
The average teen spends over eight hours a week browsing soft porn, cosmetic surgery, dieting and weight loss, family planning and emotional support websites.

5 Things You Should Know About Kids And The Internet
(1) Of the 71.1% of kids who used the Internet in the last 30 days, 83.4% did their Web surfing at home. (2) Kids are far most likely to use the Internet for entertainment. (3) Nearly 1 in 3 U.S. kids ages 6-11 who used the Internet agreed with the statement “being ‘in style’ is very important to me.” (4) Of the nearly 50 Web sites measured by our study, 3 of the top 5 are TV sites among kids who used the Internet. (5) 57% of kids who surfed the Web did so because advertising drove them there. (via)

Alcohol Advertisements Attract The Young
Researchers found that exposure to TV alcohol advertisements was associated with an increased tendency to drink, as were magazine advertisements and concession stands at sporting events or concerts. Hours spent watching films, playing games and watching music videos also correlated with young peoples’ tendency to consume alcoholic beverages.

Adolescents involved with music do better in school
A new study in the journal Social Science Quarterly reveals that music participation, defined as music lessons taken in or out of school and parents attending concerts with their children, has a positive effect on reading and mathematic achievement in early childhood and adolescence.

WhatTheFont iPhone app
Identify fonts with your iPhone’s camera. (via)

Research on Technology’s Impact on Social Networks
Professor Noshir Contractor says, “What we’ve found so far is that technology isn’t changing our networks — it’s reinforcing them.”

THE REVIEW OF 2008
- Sex, Drugs in Rock n’ Roll
- Loneliness Increases Supernatural Belief

THE REVIEW OF 2007
- Teens Face a Dirty Internet
- 8 Steps to Mind Mapping
- The Atheists of Academia
- Free Photoshop Brush Sets :: the Ultimate List
- Using Tryvertising to Get Visitors to Your Church